QUEEN Countdown - Day 26
"Fey! Prepare to depart!"
LAST DAY BEFORE IT'S HERE!!!!!!!
It's October 26th, Day 26 of our QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS release countdown!
Days until the release of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS: 1
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We are counting down the days until the release of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS, book #4 of the Tairen Soul quintet. Each week, I'll be choosing winners to receive an autographed copy of QUEEN, so don't miss out!
There are two ways you can win!
(1) Join the CL Wilson Announcement List. A winner will be drawn from the announcement list each week.
(2) Read the daily countdown blog here on Blogging the Fading Lands, and post a response to the "Question of the Day". Each Tuesday, I will choose a winner from the posters for that week. For each daily blog that you respond to, you earn one chance to win. (Multiple comments to the same blog still only count as one "chance to win".)
Once you post a comment, email feyreisa@live.com with your
(1) name,
(2) mailing address,
(3) email address, and
(4) the name you posted under (please sign your post if you post as "anonymous")
If I do not receive your information, your response to today's blog will *not* be entered in the weekly drawing.
Only one entry per person per day will be counted. Personal information will remain private, will only be used to contact the weekly winner(s), and will be discarded thereafter.
The folks at Dorchester designed this great widget for QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS. You can click the bullets to read an extended excerpt, read a deleted scene, or visit my blog. Click the "Share" button to copy this widget to your own pages and share with your friends!
Dorchester is offering prizes - including a grand prize of a complete set of Tairen Soul novels - for sharing the widget. Check out editor Leah Hultenschmidt's blog for details - so share the Fey widget love and get even more cool stuff!
It's the last day of our countdown!!! To celebrate, i will offer one of every prize (except the tairen pocket totems, as there are only four of those.)
Sleek, golden Fahreeta and her indulgent mate Torasul tumble playfully through a bright summer sky in Heather Carr's original oil painting, "Tairen's Play". I must say, this is my personal favorite. I love the bright, blue summer sky, the rich golden hue of Fahreeta's fur, the affectionate twining of their tails as they tumble, the soft undertones of outstretched wings gleaming with translucent pinkness in the sun. It's as if Heather lifted the image straight from my imagination and transferred it to canvas.
A digitized rendition of the painting has been reduced to 4"x6" and mounted on a golden-oak stained solid wood plaque suitable for wall display. The full-sized painting will soon be available on Heather's website, http://www.darkparadise.org/Paintings_index/pindex.htm
Daily prizes to be given to winners selected from today's commenters:
(1) autographed poster of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS
(1) autographed poster of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS
(1) autographed poster of KING OF SWORD AND SKY
(1) autographed poster of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS
(1) autographed copy of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS
(1) autographed copy of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS
(1) autographed copy of KING OF SWORD AND SKY
(1) autographed copy of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS
(2) autographed sets of Tairen Soul collector cards (LORD, LADY, KING & the brand-new absolutely gorgeous QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS - Card #4 in the series)
(1) Tairen art wall plaque, from the original oil painting, "Tairen's Play", by Heather Carr
In another chance to win, email feygames@live.com (please note, this is a DIFFERENT email address) with the correct answer to the following riddle, and you'll be entered in a drawing to receive an autographed book poster of your choice. (LORD, LADY, KING or QUEEN) On release day, any person who got all the riddles correct will also be entered for a drawing of an autographed copy of QUEEN.
Ready? Here's the riddle....
Magic was forbidden me
Grew up bright, but poor, you see
Married well, moved far away
My soul revealed, I am what Fey?
And the Answer is
Select and highlight the hidden white text following the ellipses to discover the answer to today's riddle!....Ellysetta Baristani
Thanks to Janet Reeves and Laura Burke for all their help on the Fey Games posted on my yahoogroups and for the Fey games riddles I'm posting this week!
The winner of the autographed poster of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS is: Jilly
The winner of the autographed poster of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS is: Robin
The winner of the autographed poster of KING OF SWORD AND SKY is: Janet Kay Gallagher
The winner of the autographed poster of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS is: Elise
The winner of the autographed copy of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS is: Pamk
The winner of the autographed copy of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS is: Ally
The winner of the autographed copy of KING OF SWORD AND SKY is: Windwanderer1981
The winner of the autographed copy of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS is: Sunset
The winners of the autographed sets of Tairen Soul collector cards are:
(1) Sassy_Eggs
(2) Kate
The winner of the tairen art wall plaque, from the original oil painting, "Tairen's Play", by Heather Carr, is: Katie
The winner of Fey Game #5, who wins a Tairen Soul book poster of his/her choice, is: Pat
CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL THE WINNERS!!!!
You can answer either of the following or both:
Join me tomorrow for more fun and prizes at the Borders True Romance blog. If you comment on the Borders blog and send me an email, you'll also get another ticket in the pot for the fabulous Grand Prize drawings.
See tomorrow's Fading Lands blog for details on the grand prize drawing - and the launch of my Release Week blogfest, including more fun, prizes and Fey games.
LAST DAY BEFORE IT'S HERE!!!!!!!
It's October 26th, Day 26 of our QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS release countdown!
Days until the release of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS: 1
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We are counting down the days until the release of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS, book #4 of the Tairen Soul quintet. Each week, I'll be choosing winners to receive an autographed copy of QUEEN, so don't miss out!
How to Enter!
There are two ways you can win!
(1) Join the CL Wilson Announcement List. A winner will be drawn from the announcement list each week.
(2) Read the daily countdown blog here on Blogging the Fading Lands, and post a response to the "Question of the Day". Each Tuesday, I will choose a winner from the posters for that week. For each daily blog that you respond to, you earn one chance to win. (Multiple comments to the same blog still only count as one "chance to win".)
Once you post a comment, email feyreisa@live.com with your
(1) name,
(2) mailing address,
(3) email address, and
(4) the name you posted under (please sign your post if you post as "anonymous")
If I do not receive your information, your response to today's blog will *not* be entered in the weekly drawing.
Only one entry per person per day will be counted. Personal information will remain private, will only be used to contact the weekly winner(s), and will be discarded thereafter.
The folks at Dorchester designed this great widget for QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS. You can click the bullets to read an extended excerpt, read a deleted scene, or visit my blog. Click the "Share" button to copy this widget to your own pages and share with your friends!
Dorchester is offering prizes - including a grand prize of a complete set of Tairen Soul novels - for sharing the widget. Check out editor Leah Hultenschmidt's blog for details - so share the Fey widget love and get even more cool stuff!
MORE PRIZES!!!!!!!!
It's the last day of our countdown!!! To celebrate, i will offer one of every prize (except the tairen pocket totems, as there are only four of those.)
"Tairen's Play" ~ Original Tairen Art Wall Plaque
Sleek, golden Fahreeta and her indulgent mate Torasul tumble playfully through a bright summer sky in Heather Carr's original oil painting, "Tairen's Play". I must say, this is my personal favorite. I love the bright, blue summer sky, the rich golden hue of Fahreeta's fur, the affectionate twining of their tails as they tumble, the soft undertones of outstretched wings gleaming with translucent pinkness in the sun. It's as if Heather lifted the image straight from my imagination and transferred it to canvas.A digitized rendition of the painting has been reduced to 4"x6" and mounted on a golden-oak stained solid wood plaque suitable for wall display. The full-sized painting will soon be available on Heather's website, http://www.darkparadise.org/Paintings_index/pindex.htm
Daily prizes to be given to winners selected from today's commenters:
(1) autographed poster of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS
(1) autographed poster of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS
(1) autographed poster of KING OF SWORD AND SKY
(1) autographed poster of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS
(1) autographed copy of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS
(1) autographed copy of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS
(1) autographed copy of KING OF SWORD AND SKY
(1) autographed copy of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS
(2) autographed sets of Tairen Soul collector cards (LORD, LADY, KING & the brand-new absolutely gorgeous QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS - Card #4 in the series)
(1) Tairen art wall plaque, from the original oil painting, "Tairen's Play", by Heather Carr
Play Fey Games for More Chances to Win!
In another chance to win, email feygames@live.com (please note, this is a DIFFERENT email address) with the correct answer to the following riddle, and you'll be entered in a drawing to receive an autographed book poster of your choice. (LORD, LADY, KING or QUEEN) On release day, any person who got all the riddles correct will also be entered for a drawing of an autographed copy of QUEEN.
Ready? Here's the riddle....
Magic was forbidden me
Grew up bright, but poor, you see
Married well, moved far away
My soul revealed, I am what Fey?
And the Answer is
Select and highlight the hidden white text following the ellipses to discover the answer to today's riddle!....Ellysetta Baristani
Thanks to Janet Reeves and Laura Burke for all their help on the Fey Games posted on my yahoogroups and for the Fey games riddles I'm posting this week!
And the Winners Are....
The winner of the autographed poster of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS is: Jilly
The winner of the autographed poster of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS is: Robin
The winner of the autographed poster of KING OF SWORD AND SKY is: Janet Kay Gallagher
The winner of the autographed poster of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS is: Elise
The winner of the autographed copy of LORD OF THE FADING LANDS is: Pamk
The winner of the autographed copy of LADY OF LIGHT AND SHADOWS is: Ally
The winner of the autographed copy of KING OF SWORD AND SKY is: Windwanderer1981
The winner of the autographed copy of QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS is: Sunset
The winners of the autographed sets of Tairen Soul collector cards are:
(1) Sassy_Eggs
(2) Kate
The winner of the tairen art wall plaque, from the original oil painting, "Tairen's Play", by Heather Carr, is: Katie
The winner of Fey Game #5, who wins a Tairen Soul book poster of his/her choice, is: Pat
CONGRATULATIONS TO ALL THE WINNERS!!!!
Question of the Day:
You can answer either of the following or both:
Your truemate courtship has begun. What are going to be the greatest obstacles you and your truemate will need to overcome in order to completely accept and trust both yourselves and each other?
Your truemate courtship has begun. Describe one courtship gift that best symbolizes some aspect of your bond or how you see your mate/your mate sees you?
Release Day Fun at Borders' True Romance
Join me tomorrow for more fun and prizes at the Borders True Romance blog. If you comment on the Borders blog and send me an email, you'll also get another ticket in the pot for the fabulous Grand Prize drawings.
See tomorrow's Fading Lands blog for details on the grand prize drawing - and the launch of my Release Week blogfest, including more fun, prizes and Fey games.
posted by C.L. Wilson at
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My absolute favorite courtship gift from my truemated husband was a yellow rose. It is simple, yet beautiful. For me a yellow rose will always mean lifelong friendship and love. Because Joseph truely is the best of both worlds. both friend and lover and we dont need anything flashy for our love to be special and unique.
My truemate, and husband, gave me a beautiful silver heart locket. To this day, that is one of my favorite courtship tokens. The silver is faded now, and the rose that had been on the front is gone, but it means so much to me still. He gave me his 'heart' the day he gave me that locket.
-Jilly
I think that if I knew that my truemate loved me and was loyal to me and that we both knew we could trust each other with anything, then I don't really see that there would be any obstacle that we couldn't overcome.
Hmmm I think obstacles would be my own insecurities. I would doubt the bond in the beginning. Also, Fey men seem to like giving orders, though admittedly they have the best intentions. We'd probably clash over that too.
As for a truemate gift...I think my truemate would surprise me with what he chooses. I could name cliches but he'd see deeper into who I really am and offer something I hadn't even realized I desired.
My courtship gift from my true mate will have to be a Barnes and nobles giftcard :) then he truly knows me and what makes me happy
What my truemate and i would have to overcome is my ability to see myself as he would see me. I have self esteem issues and cannot find myself attractive no matter what measures i take to appear as such, and other aspects of my personality that people tell me about i don't believe. Once these are overcome, would i be able to bond with a truemate. The ideal gift for me could be anything as long as it's the soul of simplicity. lavish gifts aren't necessary to express one's feelings.
My truemate builds me bookcases.
(sigh)
enuf said LOL
I know truemates dont reproduce until after the bond is complete alas i am not fey and i have three beautiful gifts that symbolize our love for each other Kyleigh Skyler and Logan are all the most precious gifts ive ever recieved. Half of Himself.
My truemates gift to me is of himself. When he puts me first. He thinks of my needs before his own. My truemate often does for me. He takes the our children for the sfternoon on a Saturday, just to give me time to myself.
I would have to say that the "best courtship gift" comes after the courtship for me. Small tokens given every day to show that he still loves me. Carrying my purse in a store, buying feminine products, going out on his lunch hour and buying a new book I've been waiting for. The time and thought in the gift mean so much more to me.
If I had a truemate the most meaningful courtship gift would have something to do with supporting my love for my horses and my need to have horses in my life.
Obstacles would be to compromise well enough for us both to be happy.
The obstacles for my truemate and I were that we met later in life after failed relationships of many years. Acceptance that we each had lives before us as a couple. With love, patience and a good sense of humor all things are possible. The best courtship gift comes each and every day when he walks thru the door and says " Hi honey how was your day?" Thinking of me first. He's one of the good guys!
The obstacles my truemate and I would have to overcome would probably come from me. I'm stubborn and have a quick temper and since my truemate would not be a meek man, I'm guessing we'd clash a lot before we got over ourselves and came together. :)
The perfect courtship gift... It would have to be something that surprised me. Possibly, something I mentioned liking or enjoying early on and then completely forgot. He, however, remembered and surprised me.
-Ally
Hm...a courtship gift for me would be a dragon of some sort. If the world was magical, it would be a real one; or if it was a world without magic, it would be a wooden sculpture or a pendant.
The biggest problem will probably be me trusting him. I take honesty very seriously and even little lies can set back my trust in someone a lot.
I love to learn and I love to travel, so if possible, one of his gifts could be to take me someplace I've never been before. Or he could bring me something from an exotic place that has something to do with me/us. He could even leave me a present as simple as a book about something he loves because I love to read and then I could learn something about him.
-Katie
As you may be able to guess from yesterdays comment, my husband is really not my truemate, since he does not appreciate my love of reading for pleasure - he puts up with it during the scant time I can find to indugle myself, but he does not GET it :D.
Therefore, my TRUE truemate's first courtship gift to me would be ... books! Lots of them! And the gift of time off to read them!
I also adore roses, so maybe even a book on roses, or with roses on its cover would also be nice. The roses my husband can and does get me (although quite rarely nowadays - oh, the joys of passing your twentieth anniversay - the romance of courtship is about dead by now, LOL!).
I think the worst obstacles we would face first would definitively be my family is stubborn and would always be a part of the picture
After 40 glorious years of marriage I can say this without hesitation.
The greatest obstacle to overcome is knowing and accepting who YOU are first in the deepest darkest of your places, good and bad. Once you accept yourself, accepting your mate in his/her darkest places without ever once thinking of trying to change them. If change comes, only they can author it while you can inspire it. You cannot force change on anyone, don't try.
The best courtship gift every received; a crystal globe mounted on a stand made from amethyst. Inside was a lock of my hair, his hair and the hair of our children braided together with an blood ruby as a tie. He gave that to me on our 30th anniversary.
My first courtship gift was an overlapping circle made of delicate crystal. This gift symbolizes his circle of protection around me and the over lapping edges allow me to soar free within or without. The second courtship gift was a gold tablet with the words “soul mate” inscribed. The tablet was broken in half between the two words and we wear them on fine gold chains around our necks. I am soul and he is my mate.
The courtship gift which would most symbolize both our bond and how we see each other would be a very small globe inlaid with precious and semi-precious stone about 1 inch in diameter. Think Lapis Lazuli oceans and land masses of obsidian or jet, turquoise, malachite, deep amethyst, garnet, jadeite, etc.
Whenever we must be apart, no matter where each of us is in the world at the time, we mean the world to each other.
The greatest obstacles all lead back to one important element: trust. It is one thing to trust someone on a conscious level where you know logically all of the ramifications of the problem and why it makes sense to lean on your love. However it is an incredible gift to be able to trust your love just because... Because in all of the world, that person is the one who holds you and all that you are first in their life and there is nothing that shakes that stance. Beyond this, other obstacles are simply problems that the two of you will handle in the best way possible.
The biggest obstacle that we would have is how much he travels. My favorite courtship gift would be an orchid.
Today is my eight year anniversary and my hubby gave me my favorite flower. He had eight gerbera daisies sent to me at work. I love flowers, and I don't get them very often.
My husband is so great with kids, but he's scared to be a father. Our biggest challenge will be overcoming that fear, and preparing to become parents.
My husband and I fought throughout our courtship. We had a bit of a long-distance problem, and that really made it hard on us.
The biggest obstacle on my side was I had a lot of trouble accepting affection, whether it was pretty words or physical touch. I rejected a lot of his offerings, sometimes by accident, and sometimes because I didn't realize what it meant to him. In the end (well after we were married), I discovered that I hadn't yet come to terms with myself as a woman. I was still in the ugly duckling phase, so that's something I had to come to terms with for myself.
For my husband, one of his biggest obstacles was trusting me. He had some minor abandonment issues which meant that every time we had a fight (and oh, how we fought), he was terrified, almost into immobility, that I was going to break up with him. Even after we were engaged, he thought I would break it off. Even after we were married, during that first year, he still struggled with the idea that I might still walk away. Together we helped him face the problem by trying not to take disagreements personally, and by always reiterating that our love and our relationship is never in question just because we are having a difficult time.
As for courtship gifts, my husband actually DID buy me a bookcase. He bought me my favorite roses, yellow ones. And he bought me glass roses in all different colors, which I still have, except for the one that someone broke (boo!).
My single favorite gift was probably my engagement ring. It's gold, fashioned into the shape of a rose bloom. There's gold leaves coming out from under the rose bloom, and to one side was an amethyst (my favorite stone). When we got married, we added the second band, and a second amethyst to the other side.
No diamonds for me. Blech.
My hubby sent me eight gerber daisies for our eight year wedding anniversary today. HE never sends me flowers, so that kind of done it for me.
Trusting the other person in your life, not in the sense that the are untrustworthy, but that the both of us are so independent, it is so hard to understand and trust that you have to let your truemate take care of you, help you, even and especially when you don't think you need help at all. Learning to accept their help and gifts because they love you and it brings them joy to do these things for you. So you must let it happen.
As for a courtship gift, a black rose and quartz crystal necklace. These things are so important to the both of us because we are pagan and love a different look at life. The rose is something that connects to my absolute fascination with roses and a black rose is something meant for sadness or death but to us it means that we believe our own version of that symbol, that it holds our secrets and we live in the night. The crystal was screaming at me to have it and so he bought it for me and wanted to add a little of himself to it. It was protection and peace, that in some way, he would always watch over me, the crystal hangs from my neck every day and never strays from me even in the shower. I have found such comfort in it each and every moment since.
I think the single greatest obstacle that my truemate and I would need to overcome, would be my trust issues - I find it very, very hard to trust people. In part because once I give my loyalty and trust to someone, I give it whole-heartedly... I also can sometimes come across as a little cold and formal until I get to know someone, since I'm awkward around people I don't know.
The perfect courtship gift, would be something simple, but different - like seeds for an unusual variety of tomato - a symbol of my hidden interest in trying to nuture old heritage varieties of tomatoes in our family allotment.
Before I answer the question of the day, I have to shout out to Amanda. xD Thanks, glad I made that impression on at least one person! And thanks for the congrats, one to you on your lovely prizes as well! ^^
As for question one...
I know that talking about my problems is something I generally fail at, unless they're so close to the surface that I'm being overwhelmed by them. So for me, that will be one of my greatest obstacles to overcome, truemate or not. Otherwise, my personal insecurities have to be overcome about my physical appearance. Some days I might think I could just about come off as 'pretty', and other times, it's like "UGH, don't even want to look at myself" sorta deal. xD;
For my truemate? Hmm, that's a good one. I would hope we wouldn't have the same problem...it's not fun. But I don't know what would be something of his we would have to overcome.
Question two?
The most important courtship gift...would be something surprising. Something I wouldn't know how I went without once I have it; but it doesn't have to be hugely expensive. The best things in life are for free, after all, but yes. Something I never realized was missing.
My truemate would have to deal with my insecurities about trust. I've been married and divorced twice so I'm gun shy about relationships. He would have to overcome my trust issues and I would have to learn how to trust him and depend on someone else.
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The greatest challenge my truemate would face would be in getting me to accept that he was interested in me. I'm shy and insecure and don't feel all that attractive (even more so this week-I've come down with a cold :( ). So he would have to be patient, persistent and persuasive. But to be my truemate, he would have to be all three, so I think eventually he'd bring me around.
April C
A pink gerbera. I always get roses or tulips or wildflowers. Which are all just lovely of course, but I do love my gerberas.
I have never been married, engaged or even in love... I couldn't even call myself worthy of an honest boyfriend. My point though is that I know little of love, unlike so many other married fans/posters who speak of lovely gifts their husbands (or wives) have given them. I hope any relationship I have in the future is as perfect and loving as theirs. Ultimately it would be all about space. More so than normal I have always been independent.. in spirit, nature, and attitude. I think if I were to find any sort of a true mate again it would come down to space. Not only how much I get away from him, but how much I get with him. I'm not an easy person that opens up willingly. Thus it would take quite a bit of trust that. I think the ultimate courtship gift would be that space, that acknowledgment that he truly knows you, that he truly respects what is yours and is willing to work with that.
A good courtship gift for me would definitely be a woodlot, a garden plot, and a donkey. It would be confirmation that my S.O. understood and was willing to indulge my interests and creativity.
my truemate gift will give me a new ebookreader cause he knows how much my books mean to me.
When we were both poor and young, my future husband gave me a small stuffed animal holding a single red rose.
-PW
My husband gave me the best gift. A few years ago I mentioned how much I missed waking up on Christmas morning to see presents from Santa. Christmas is my favorite holiday and in my family, we let the magic live. Until I moved out of the house, there was always a Santa gift under the tree.
I told him how much I missed the tradition and the conversation shifted. It was maybe September or so at the time. When Christmas morning came, he was unusually eager for me to see what was under the tree. I sat down next to the tree, and, while there was no present from him that year, there was one from Santa. I had to laugh though because I'd never seen Santa wrap a present with electrical tape.
It still touches me deeply just remembering it. Not only did he remember a passing conversation months before Christmas, but he gave up putting his own name on my gift. Thoughtfulness like that isn't something I would have dreamed of in a truemate before I met my husband.
~Rach
My truemate's first gift to me was a pocketwatch that had been set and stopped to the date and time of our first meeting.
My best gift(s) my husband gave me when we first started dating were the roses he gave me every month on our anniversary date for the first year of courtship. I received one on our first month anniversary, two on the second month anniversary, three on the third month anniversary and so on. I have received many more gifts from him during our courtship and marriage but these mean the most.
Josie
The best courtship gift to me would be that he trusts me had lets me have some independence but is also there for me when I need him. I would like little gifts that show he cares and that continue after the bond is compelete.
Sonja
In response to Angie G: My boyfriend bought me a Kindle so I could carry my zillions of books with me, and download new ones from anywhere at any time. He bought me an iPod so I could have my music everywhere I go. Heck... Maybe I have my truemate already and never knew?
well, being a bloke showing my mushy side, i gave my wife when we were dating a rose a day, delivered to her work, for two weeks then a whole bunch of amazing flowers.
she loved it....
biggest obstacles are knowing yourselves before can expect to understand your truemate.
Giving small gifts that show that you were thinking of your soulmate are best for courtship.
mak...
I would give my mate a canoe. Sounds dumb, but I actually did give my husband one for our first Christmas together. He loves the outdoors - hiking, conoeing, fishing, some hunting. We both enjoy the out of doors and spent many wonderful afternoons in that canoe.
I believe the greatest obstacle for my truemate and I would be to learn how to embrace life without fear.
My truemate courtship gift: ** Bigmeat **
And yes, I've received that gift more than once.
LOL (You are so wrong if you're thinking that!!!)
An obstacle that we'd have to overcome would be our stubbornness (ugh it's so late that I don't care if I spelled it wrong) ...listening equally to both sides of the issue and then compromising every so often would be a nice goal to work towards. :)
I don't like not being in control of myself or my environment. It takes an enormous amount of trust on my part to even fall asleep in the same area where there are other people; I have to know them really well or my body just won't sleep (I think it's a "do I trust you with my life" issue?). So my truemate will have to get through those barriers, somehow, AND deal with my insane and insanely large family.
As I said in the previous post, I don't like conjuring up a truemate in my head, so I don't know what obstacles I'd face of his, but if he's my truemate, we should be able to get past them. Sooner or later.
I Love Gardenias, so that would be a great gift, a beautiful plant ready to bloom.
Obsticles, probably many, but conflict makes the story.
one of the biggest problems......
well travis and i started dating when we were 20. we had our first child at 21:) our second at 23 and our third at 25. then, him and i took on a 10 year old cousin b/c his parents have lost him to DCFS and we couldn't bare the thought of him being outside of our family circle (my little guys adore him!) also we live on one income:O lol! so the biggest strain on us as a couple are being so young in parenting 4 children, and having the hardship of only one income with a family of 6 :))
my favorite courtship gift (hands down) is alone time together. i don't care if we are sitting on our couch!! if we are alone its instantly romantic and magical;) a close second is all 6 of us together going on walks and laughing! we have some pretty gut wrenching laughter together!!:)) i wouldn't change what i have for the world! my poor, chaotic, life is exactly as is should be, and i couldn't be happier!
~amanda
my truemate would give a ring because are bond would never be ending.
In response to Elise K, please don't think that marriage and love are perfect. My husband and I have our days where we are great together and days where we aren't so great. I have never regretted marrying him, but that has been a choice. I choose to love him and be with him. It is a daily decision and sometimes it is really hard. We met when I was 18 and it has been a journey with rough and smooth places. There's so much more I have in my brain and heart I would share, but it wold make this a very looooooonnng blog. Just remember, loving someone is not easy, there are times when it seems downright impossible; but it is a decision and can be accomplished if you want to. It is about putting the other person before your own wants, being selfless and giving 100% even when you don't feel like it. Sometimes we all need to be reminded of why we choose that person.
Day 26 is now closed for "Enter to Win" comments.
QUEEN OF SONG AND SOULS is officially released, and today marks the end of the QUEEN countdown.
There's more fun in store though! Check out today's blog for details.
I'll be posting Day 26 winners very soon.
cheers
Cheryl (AKA C.L. Wilson)
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